Hi everyone, I hope you had productive days this week. It’s almost Friday, woohoo!! 🎉💃🕺
Actually, I wanted to share with you my Amsterdam trip this week but something changed my mind. First, let me ask you a question: if you get a wedding invitation but it’s overseas, will you go?
Okay, let’s flashback a bit. I was scrolling Facebook until I saw my friend post images of how each zodiac sign apologises.
I laughed so hard on the train 🤣🤣🤣
Of course, the image above is meant to be a joke. I’ll share with you the rest of the images later on.
So, back to the topic. That image reminds me of when I politely declined my friend’s overseas wedding invitation in 2019. It was tough because we were having dinner and she invited me on the spot.
She wasn’t offended but her reaction is hard to forget #imsorry
We were ex-colleagues and I like talking to her because she’s a very positive, ambitious, clever, and straightforward person.
She was one of the people who congratulated me when I entered a new relationship. Coincidentally, she was about to leave the country to get married.
We enjoyed our dinner, had a good conversation about life and relationship, then… she dropped the question.
Her: “Do you want to come to my wedding in the UK next year?” 👰🤵
Me: “UK?” (me thinking of next year’s trip that was already booked) 😶
Her: “Yes. Actually, I have two receptions… but you said you couldn’t attend the one in Sarawak.”
Me: “Yes, I have to renew my working visa, so I can’t go anywhere. Too bad…”
Her: “Come la… It’s still next year. I can take you on a city tour. I know you like traveling.”😊✨
Me: (UK visa fee is around RM500, then hotel, flight, etc…)
If she sent me an online invitation, I wouldn’t be struggling as much as when I declined her invitation in person.
I could save the night by telling her that I would think about it… and update her a few days later, apologise because I wouldn’t make it.
Not forgetting the 🙏🙏🙏 emoji, of course!
But she’s my friend and I didn’t want to give her false hope. So I told her the truth.
Me: “You know… I always plan my trips way in advance, like one or two years before so I can save some money.
And I have to apply for tourist visas. If I don’t have enough money, they won’t grant me the visa.
I already booked a tour for next year and my budget is only enough for that trip. Plus, the currency in the UK is pound sterling, it’s too expensive for me… Sorry…”
Her: “Then, who will come to my wedding???” 👀👀👀
Me: “I don’t know…?” 👀👀👀
🤣🤣🤣
How would I know? 😂😂😂
Luckily, she wasn’t angry at me and we are still talking. It’s all good.
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My Take on Overseas Wedding Invitations
When it comes to inviting people to attend your wedding overseas, I feel there are many things to consider.
Let’s say one day I’m getting married and I want to throw a big wedding party.
Since I’m a conscious spender, my main concern will be my guests’ budget. Is it a burden for them to fly to country X to attend my wedding?
If yes, then maybe I should change the location to a place where most of the guests would likely make it.
But if I don’t want to change the venue, then I will send the invitation without high hope many would come. Or instead, plan for a small party with only family members and best friends.
If I choose to have a small wedding party overseas, there are other things to think of too.
I feel I shouldn’t take my family members and best friends for granted, expecting them to come just because we are close. Everyone has their own financial situation.
If I had a big budget, I would love to cover their flight ticket and/or hotel for a few days. They already come from far, far away – let them explore the city for a few days!
Even if a family member or best friend is rich, I would still do the same. This is how I show my appreciation and respect.
If I didn’t have the budget to hold a wedding party, then I wouldn’t have one. It’s simple😉
Alright, that’s my thought for the week. It’s time for me to catch some sleep…
Have a wonderful weekend, friends!🌸🌸🌸
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